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A September wedding

November 8, 2021

Yes, I know. Terribly late — six weeks late! — but I am badly behind on everything. In any case: my good friend (a boyfriend way back in the past) Dean Allemang married Tim Allemang (formerly Tim Beers) on Saturday afternoon, September 25th, at the Columbus OH Center of Science and Industry (at 333 W. Broad St.). A reception — cocktail hour and dinner — and dancing followed at the Boathouse at Confluence Park (where the Olentangy joins the Scioto River in Columbus). The couple then traveled on their honeymoon.

There are many ways to arrange these things, and this is one, adapting the traditional forms minimally for a male couple. I admire that, and I’m sorry that I’m no longer able to travel and couldn’t take part.

The cover of the wedding announcement:

How delightful. May they sail on together for decades to come.

They had a very long pre-marriage period to establish themselves as a loving couple composed of two independent people — something of a trick for any married couple, but especially complex for same-sex couples (who don’t have a traditional structure to fall back on if they wish, but pretty much have to negotiate everything).

Dean’s dad Denny was there to welcome Tim into his family with enthusiasm. (I recall my own dad’s great pleasure at gaining my man Jacques as a second son.) Dean’s mother Peg died in 2018, but I’m sure her clear-minded energetic spirit suffused the event. (Once the lion of the local PFLAG, Peg joined me for several years in carrying the OSU banner in the Columbus Gay Pride Parade.)



The caritive

October 26, 2019

An e-mail announcement from Sonya Oskolskaya (СА Оскольская) on 10/21:

The Institute for Linguistic Studies, Russian Academy of Sciences is pleased to announce the conference “Caritive Constructions in the Languages of the World”, to be held in Saint Petersburg, Russia on April 21–23, 2020.

The conference aims to bring together studies on caritive (a.k.a. abessive or privative) constructions in different languages.


News from the Mormon territories

January 7, 2018

Two pieces of news, from wildly disparate parts of my life, but both with Mormon connections.

First, a gay porn sale from the Lucas studios, from their specialty site: tons of deeply transgressive LDS mansex, framed as daddy-son sex to boot; also with lots of images of men kissing, which I happen to find very satisfying.

Second, the news from Salt Lake City, where the 92nd annual meeting of the Linguistic Society of America is drawing to a close today — an event that brings with it meetings of sister societies, among them the American Dialect Society, sponsor of an annual Word of the Year competition, a kind of public lexicographic circus with voting from the floor. The overall WOTY winner this year, announced on the 5th: fake news, in two different senses. Details on this and the other winners below.


Zwickys of New York: Chuck the mixmaster

October 17, 2016

Following on yesterday’s appreciation of artist Calder Zwicky, I was led to check out Zwickys in New York City. There aren’t a great many, at least from the Swiss migrations to America in the 18th through early 20th centuries; Swiss immigrants from those days went first primarily to farm country (some details below), and their descendants (like me, and Calder Zwicky) then moved to seek new lives in urban areas. However, among the Zwickys of New York I did come across sound mixer Chuck Zwicky.


News for penises: NCOD, Portlandia

October 11, 2016

(Some plain talk about male bodies and man-man sex, but nothing extravagant. Use your judgment.)

Yes, I will make a connection, via my guy Jacques Transue: our anniversary is National Coming Out Day, that’s today. Marky Mark will be involved (because sexy underwear), and finger pointing (thanks to Portlandia) and Kyril Bonfiglioli and men’s ties.


Countdown to diamond days

September 24, 2016

… with gusto, always gusto.

In three days, my friend Steven Levine will be 60. On to his diamond years! A homoerotic scruff collage for the occasion:


(Assemblage by Robert Cumming for my own 60th birthday, at the turn of this century.)



September 18, 2016

A recent plaint from Aric Olnes (who is now 51) on Facebook:

Ugh. That moment when a retailer automatically spits out post-transaction coupons for Centrum Silver and laxatives! WTH, fifty is fifty! Sigh. Damn you, Walgreens.

Fifty is a cut-off point (at least in the U.S.) for the seque from middle age (beginning at 40 or 45, depending on who you read) to senior status (entered at 60-65, depending on who you read). There are “50+” organizations of many types, and the AARP takes members beginning at 50 — so it’s clearly not literally an association for retired persons (instead, it provides a kind of anteroom to retirement and true senior status).


Birthday times

September 6, 2016

It’s two weeks of birthdays, of friends, ending today, with my own: #76, an American patriotic number (1776!) and a nice composite of the really square 4 and the really prime 19.


Know your penguins

January 22, 2015

A bit late for Penguin Awareness Day, which was the 20th, but always welcome on this blog: a poster passed on to me by Chris Waigl: