Yes, I know. Terribly late — six weeks late! — but I am badly behind on everything. In any case: my good friend (a boyfriend way back in the past) Dean Allemang married Tim Allemang (formerly Tim Beers) on Saturday afternoon, September 25th, at the Columbus OH Center of Science and Industry (at 333 W. Broad St.). A reception — cocktail hour and dinner — and dancing followed at the Boathouse at Confluence Park (where the Olentangy joins the Scioto River in Columbus). The couple then traveled on their honeymoon.
There are many ways to arrange these things, and this is one, adapting the traditional forms minimally for a male couple. I admire that, and I’m sorry that I’m no longer able to travel and couldn’t take part.
The cover of the wedding announcement:
How delightful. May they sail on together for decades to come.
They had a very long pre-marriage period to establish themselves as a loving couple composed of two independent people — something of a trick for any married couple, but especially complex for same-sex couples (who don’t have a traditional structure to fall back on if they wish, but pretty much have to negotiate everything).
Dean’s dad Denny was there to welcome Tim into his family with enthusiasm. (I recall my own dad’s great pleasure at gaining my man Jacques as a second son.) Dean’s mother Peg died in 2018, but I’m sure her clear-minded energetic spirit suffused the event. (Once the lion of the local PFLAG, Peg joined me for several years in carrying the OSU banner in the Columbus Gay Pride Parade.)
