A September wedding

Yes, I know. Terribly late — six weeks late! — but I am badly behind on everything. In any case: my good friend (a boyfriend way back in the past) Dean Allemang married Tim Allemang (formerly Tim Beers) on Saturday afternoon, September 25th, at the Columbus OH Center of Science and Industry (at 333 W. Broad St.). A reception — cocktail hour and dinner — and dancing followed at the Boathouse at Confluence Park (where the Olentangy joins the Scioto River in Columbus). The couple then traveled on their honeymoon.

There are many ways to arrange these things, and this is one, adapting the traditional forms minimally for a male couple. I admire that, and I’m sorry that I’m no longer able to travel and couldn’t take part.

The cover of the wedding announcement:

How delightful. May they sail on together for decades to come.

They had a very long pre-marriage period to establish themselves as a loving couple composed of two independent people — something of a trick for any married couple, but especially complex for same-sex couples (who don’t have a traditional structure to fall back on if they wish, but pretty much have to negotiate everything).

Dean’s dad Denny was there to welcome Tim into his family with enthusiasm. (I recall my own dad’s great pleasure at gaining my man Jacques as a second son.) Dean’s mother Peg died in 2018, but I’m sure her clear-minded energetic spirit suffused the event. (Once the lion of the local PFLAG, Peg joined me for several years in carrying the OSU banner in the Columbus Gay Pride Parade.)



6 Responses to “A September wedding”

  1. Mark A. Mandel Says:

    This made me happy

  2. Robert Coren Says:

    I was present at this event (as you probably already knew). It was delightful in all respects.

    • arnold zwicky Says:

      Yes. Envy.

      I didn’t mention the wedding ages ago that Dean and I went to as a couple (he did a strip show for the bachelorette party!), in summery suits; we were both decorative and, if I dare say so myself, hot (I was much younger then; Dean, however, is Forever Hot, just in somewhat different ways as he ages).

      • Robert Coren Says:

        I gather Dean was… not particularly shy at his own bachelor party, which we had semi-planned to attend, and ended up deciding we weren’t up for it.

      • arnold zwicky Says:

        Following up on Robert about Dean’s bachelor party: pictures; we want pictures.

  3. deanallemang Says:

    I have it on good authority that photos and indeed videos of the bachelor party are to be had, but I haven’t managed to find out the price. I have a feeling that the currency is not registered in ISO 4217.

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