Archive for the ‘Language of sex’ Category

Tearooms and their features

August 12, 2015

On AZBlogX today, a piece “Tearoom time”, with almost nothing that can be pictured here, beyond the cover of this recent book by Jane Ward:

Not Gay thrusts deep into a world where straight guy-on-guy action is not a myth but a reality: there’s fraternity and military hazing rituals, where new recruits are made to grab each other’s penises and stick fingers up their fellow members’ anuses; online personal ads, where straight men seek other straight men to masturbate with; and, last but not least, the long and clandestine history of straight men frequenting public restrooms for sexual encounters with other men.

My XBlog posting is about those public restrooms, called tearoomsT-rooms, or t-rooms by those who use them, especially as depicted in two pieces of classic gay porn — one part of Huge 1 (1983) and one of The Bigger the Better (1984) — and featuring glory hole sex, subpartition sex (“sticking it under”), other sex in tearooms, and various forms of group sex involving gay men. Amply illustrated.

Not for kids, the sexually modest, or the easily offended.

AZBlogX: offers of the body

July 6, 2015

On my X Blog, an illustrated piece on gay men offering their bodies for anal intercourse — mostly as bottoms, but sometimes as tops. Thoroughly X-rated.

Initialisms, raunchy and not

July 2, 2015

An image posted by actor/director Chris Pratt on his Facebook page:


The initialistic abbreviation BJ stands for Beijing here, but of course blowjob will come first to many people’s minds — even though then the t-shirt should go

I ♥︎

And there are more possibilities; it’s in the nature of abbreviations to be multiply ambiguoua.


Briefly: a catamitic misreading

July 2, 2015

Another “out of the corner of the eye” misreading, from the front page of the NYT yesterday (July 1st). What I thought I saw was the teaser head

A Love Tested by Catamites

As I tried to imagine how the story went, I focused more carefully on the page, and saw the head

A Love Tested by Calamities

And then I wondered about the history of catamite.


Happy Ending

June 26, 2015

(On the language of sex — but with a fair amount of sex, so this posting might not be to everyone’s taste.)

“Happy Ending” was the header on this e-mail from the Daily Jocks people yesterday, announcing the last hours of their big sale; the caption below is mine.


He got him off, then he
Kissed him off.


Wrapped for June

June 16, 2015

(Warning: about gay porn, with frank discussion of men’s bodies and man-man sex; the X-rated images are on AZBlogX, but a couple of the ones here skirt the line. In any case, not for the kiddies or the sexually modest.)

On my X Blog, in “Wrapping themselves in the rainbow flag”, a Gay Pride sale at Channel 1 Releasing (well, an excuse to advertise four of their most recent releases). For whatever reason, all four of the images there have the men as receptors rather than insertors — as phallophages in a general sense, two per os and two per ano.

The actors: in #1 (from Daddy Issues), Kyle Kash as a Boy (admittedly, hairy and muscular, but definitely a Boy) in a Daddy-Boy scene; in #2 (from “Chokin’ on Cock”), Joe Parker in an absurd multi-suck scene (three at a time!); in #3 (from “Folsom Flesh”), Joe Steele, in a harness and a sling, getting porked by a leather dude; and in #4 (from “My New Step Brother”), Austin Jordan fellating in the family.

I’m interested, in general, in how pornstars are presented in these movies, how their fantasy relationships are framed (everything from raw, context-less sex to bonding for love), how the encounters are structured, and how language is used in these encounters. You can get only a bit of this from still shots, and it’s gotten harder than it used to be to get information about the actors and the films; the field is crowded with low-grade professional porn and enormous amounts of amateur porn.

Here I’ll focus on Kyle Kash, who leads off the ad and is in fact wrapped in a rainbow flag for the season (the rest merely have rainbow PRIDE! insignia on the images).

In the AZBlogX shot, Kash is displaying his muscular hairy ass (plus some dangling testicles), glancing back over his shoulder at the viewer, in a shot that screams BOTTOM. And indeed, though he’s a relative newcomer to the porn flick world, he’s been around the bottom block a whole lot of times already: in Daddy Issues, with Scotty Rage — in a cropped photo:


Taking Dmitri Kane in a different sexual position (mounted on him), in Before a Shower (also cropped):


(With open-mouthed ecstatic pleasure in both shots.)

And bottoming for at least the following men in other films: Brenner Bolton, Trenton Ducati, John Foster, Kip Ryker.

Then there’s his rentboy in L.A. site, which features his ass in the first photo of the set and emphasizes its virtues in the text:


Very open-minded and non-judgmental guy here looking to fulfill your fantasies and take you on an adventure. I have a tight, muscular, defined body (workout 7x a week), a large 7.5″ cock and an amazing ass.

I’m available for dinners, companionship, events, etc. I’m very chill, discreet, sweet, and caring. I will treat you like the amazing person that you are. I know how to have a great time and would love for you to join me.

(It’s all about the dinner conversation.)

On the other three actors, very briefly. Three different types:

Joe Parker: billed as gay-for-pay, mostly a top – lean and ruggedly masculine

Colin Steele: raunchy, leather muscle pig, into barebacking, and usually a top

Jordan Austin: framed as a young straight boy who discovers gay sex together with his new stepbrother

Something for everybody at Pride Time.

Guys in Heat

June 8, 2015

(Warning: this is a posting, often in very plain language, about gay porn flicks, the actors in them, their bodies, and the sex acts the pornstars engage in. Visually not X-rated — those images are on AZBlogX — but far from innocent. Not for the kiddies or the sexually modest. There’s a fair amount about language in there, but there’s a lot to offend the sensitive.)

Unearthed on my desktop, this playful cock-tease photo of the engaging Christopher Ash (a.k.a. Tony Bendanza and Tony Bandanza):


A word about how the photo got onto my desktop and why I’m posting about it now.

Then about Ash, body types, and sociotypes, and the porn flick Guys in Heat.


Questionnaire issues again

May 15, 2015

(Warning: some frank talk about sex here.)

In the NYT on the 13th, a news brief from Washington, “F.D.A. Proposal Would End Ban on Blood Donation” by Sabrina Tavernise. In its entirety, with the crucial phrase boldfaced:

The Food and Drug Administration on Tuesday released its proposal for scrapping a decades-old lifetime ban on blood donation by gay and bisexual men. The proposal was criticized when it was first announced, in December, because men who have had sex with men in the last 12 months would still not be allowed to give blood. The limited prohibition is comparable to rules in many European countries, but critics said it did not take into account modern diagnostic tools that can detect H.I.V. infection as early as nine to 11 days after exposure. The contested part of the proposal remains unchanged in Tuesday’s version, which details the policy and is open to public comment for 60 days before a final decision. In a nod to transgender Americans, the proposal allows donors to report their gender; under current policy, eligibility is determined strictly based on a donor’s sex at birth.

My comments here are not about the substance of the policy (for the record, I agree with the critics of the new “limited” prohibition), but about the interpretation of “men who have sex with men”: what, exactly, do people who use this expression mean by “have sex with”, and how do those who hear it or read it understand it?

It turns out that the interview protocol the FDA uses doesn’t ask about “having sex with” another man but about “having sexual contact” with another man — but without explaining what that expression means.

I’ve been in this territory on this blog before, about “having sex with” versus “having sexual relations with” someone in questionnaires.


Cluster Fucked

April 24, 2015

(Obviously heavy on taboo language, some of it about man-man sex, but no images. Use with caution.)

In mail today from TitanMen (the gay porn studio), an ad for the new video Cluster Fucked, about orgy scenes (and gangbangs). Samples on the TitanMen site for three group sex scenes, involving (for those of you who follow these things) pornstars:

Francois Sagat, Dean Flynn, Diesel Washington, CJ Madison, Brody Newport

Jason Branch, Jon Galt, Lance Gear, Nick Nicaste

Jessy Ares, Marco Wilson, Junior Stellano, Wilfried Knight

There are two senses for the noun clusterfuck or cluster fuck. From Urban Dictionary, in addition to the ‘orgy’ sense:

Military term for an operation in which multiple things have gone wrong. Related to “SNAFU” (Situation Normal, All Fucked Up”) and “FUBAR” (Fucked Up Beyond All Repair).

In radio communication or polite conversation ([e.g.,] with a very senior officer with whom you have no prior experience) the term “clusterfuck” will often be replaced by the NATO phonetic acronym “Charlie Foxtrot.”

And from the scholarly Jesse Sheidlower (3rd ed. of The F-Word), who doesn’t have Charlie Foxtrot:

  1. an orgy [from 1965 on]
  2. Military. a bungled or confused undertaking or situation; mess; (also) a disorganized group of individuals. [from 1969 on]

Both senses have the occasional variant Mongolian clusterfuck / cluster fuck.

The connection between the two senses? One clue is that a similar ambiguity arises for circle jerk ‘group masturbation scene’, ‘mess’ and some other items. From a posting of mine on 1/3/11:

Having just posted, on my X blog, on group sex in gay porn, I’ve returned to some material on circle jerk that I started collecting in 2004

… Tom Dalzell pointed out on ADS-L that HDAS (the Historical Dictionary of American Slang) has circle jerk ‘mess’ since 1973, and the compound seemed to him to be fairly common in that sense. And Doug Wilson noted a possible parallel to cluster fuck, goat fuck, pooch screw, etc. (especially in military contexts), in which “Instead of getting their job done, the participants are engaged in undisciplined,  undignified, useless activity: e.g., metaphorically, group sex or sex with animals.

On the double entendre watch

April 20, 2015

Posted on Facebook by Leith Chu:


Oh my: the verb pork, the verb pull, the verb rub, all available with sexual senses.



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